When you’re depressed, every day – every interaction – feels painful, empty and exhausting. You don’t care about things and your world is colorless. You try to keep your depression a secret, but others notice, and your shame only makes it worse. If you feel there is no end, I assure you there is. I know, because I’ve come out that other end myself, with the help of skilled therapists and my own hard work. In psychotherapy, I can help you do this, too.
STRESS & Anxiety
You feel keyed up and exhausted all at once. When you try to ‘relax’ your body goes in the other direction entirely. You may have a specific concern or area of worry that you can’t seem to work through on your own, or you may seem to worry about everything. With psychotherapy, I can help you find better ways to calm your mind and body, help you identify what parts of your life you can control, and help you let go of what you can’t.
If you’ve been emotionally, physically and/or sexually hurt, it’s not surprising that you are struggling. You have difficulty concentrating, avoiding bad memories or images, and trusting people. You have negative thoughts about yourself and the world around you, and you may feel as if there will never be a time when you’ll feel free from anger and fear. In psychotherapy, I’ll help you experience and contain your emotions, learn to feel safe while feeling close, and set the hurt parts of you on a path to healing.
You find yourself in constant conflict, even with people you love. Anger, jealousy, disappointment and fears of abandonment easily take you over and make living hard. Or maybe you’re someone who feels very little in your relationships other than a wish to avoid or retreat from partners you experience as “difficult,” demanding and intrusive. Regardless of which “side” you’re on, you know something needs to change. With psychotherapy, I can help you break the repetitive cycle of pain in your relationships.
You’re faking being an adult, hoping that someday you’ll feel grown-up for real. For now, you’ve got rent to pay, student loans, a job that treats you like cheap talent, and all the challenges of adult relationships. Employers want to know where you see yourself in five years, and you’re just trying to figure out today. What’s the secret everyone else seems to know? You might not be totally failing at this, but you want to feel better about your present and future. In psychotherapy, I’ll help you stop faking and start mastering.
Parenting is full of surprises, joys and challenges. You knew that sleep training and limit setting would be hard, but you had no idea how many many complex feelings and issues parenting could bring up in you and your partner. Your children can bring up old, pushed-away pains, and these pains prevent you from being the present, generous and mindful parent you long to be. I can help you know yourself and the parenting “buttons” that keep getting pushed to help you be less reactive, more attuned, and more intentional with the children you love so much.
Emotion Focused Therapy (EFTc) for Couples
If you and your partner are stuck in painful patterns of relating that feel beyond your control, it’s time for couples therapy. Painful relationships are often characterized by anger, resentment, blame, loneliness and disengagement, and once these emotions become the ‘norm,’ couples no longer feel safe and connected. I am trained in Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT), the modality validated by over a decade of research as the long-term answer for rescuing and reinvigorating marriages. Using EFT, I work to end cycles of pain in couples by restoring the closeness, safety and sense of enlivened connection that each partner longs for.
I actively invite couples with histories of trauma, depression, anxiety, ADHD, and addiction to work with me.
Individual Psychotherapy, 50-minute sessions
Couple Psychotherapy, 60- or 80-minute sessions
Insurance - I am not in-network with any insurance panels, but can help you use your insurance to obtain "Out of Network" reimbursement for our sessions. Prior to your intake evaluation, please call your insurance carrier and ask about your “mental health Out of Network” benefits; make sure to find out if you have a deductible and at what percentage or rate they will reimburse your psychotherapy sessions. I’ll provide you receipts to submit for reimbursement.